Preschool Drama

I'm sure if you read another "first day of preschool" post this week your eyes might bleed. Guess what-this is another one of those posts. Tuesday wasn't just Evan's first day of preschool for this year it was his first day EVER - And I was terrified.

Lets back up a few years. Evan has always been strong willed. If he doesn't want to do something, he's going to put up a huge fight. This example is from two years ago-he didn't want to take pictures-so he had a meltdown.


I made a mistake by bringing him in church with me instead of putting him in the nursery when he was a baby because he would just nap or eat a bottle. When he was about a year old, things changed and he wasn't so quiet in church. I decided to put him in the nursery during service and, well, that didn't work out. He SCREAMED and SCREAMED until he was gasping for air. We have tried putting him in the nursery almost every Sunday over the past 2 years and he's only stayed ONCE.

I figured something had to change and did the only logical thing. I found a preschool where we know NO ONE that works there so I wouldn't be totally embarrassed, and I signed him up.

I've really been dreading it ever since I registered him in March. Orientation was last Thursday. He kept saying he did NOT want to be there and the teacher even had coloring sheets and crayons out to draw. What did my son do? He closed the crayons and put them up so none of the other kids could use them because they were "his". Great. I have the spoiled brat of the bunch.

Tuesday was the first actual day of school(I'm only doing 2 days/week-why torture myself more than I have to) and he was protesting the whole time. We made a big deal about his cool new backpack that he picked out, so he was a little excited. He showed us all the toys in his classroom and then it was time for me to go. I kind of snuck out and got the director to call me a few minutes later. She called and said he had quit crying(AMAZINGLY), but he wasn't participating(hey-baby steps, right?)at all-he didn't want to draw or eat snack.


I arrived 25 minutes early to pick him up. I saw him on the playground and he was playing with some other kids. The teacher came over to talk to me and I learned that he had TWO accidents that day, but many of the potty trained kids had wet themselves because of nerves or whatever. He was MORE than excited to see me and was ready to go home.

Yesterday I told him that I couldn't wait to see what he would draw in school and told him that he would get some M&Ms if he used the potty at school and didn't have any accidents. I walked him to his classroom, gave him a hug, and walked away. He cried. I cried. It wasn't pretty.

The director called me about 30 minutes later and shocked me. She said he didn't cry long and was actually participating. He played with the other kids, and was drawing. He was so happy when I picked him up and couldn't wait to show me the surprise that he had for me from their nature walk(A=acorn). He even wanted to hang around a little bit before we left.


Needless to say, I am amazed and so extremely happy that it seems to be going well. Keep your fingers crossed and say a prayer that it keeps going this great. I often wonder how many other people have a kid like Evan. :)

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29 comments:

Oka said...

You are not alone. No, I don't have a child like that, Thank God because I would freak. You handled things well. The pre-school my 3 year old started at this year has 9 classrooms. All teachers meet their kids at their color line. We have had two weeks of school. There are still kids (less than the first week) willing to throw themselves on the ground and throw tantrums about going. You know what I hear the teacher tell the parents when they pick them up? "He stopped crying as soon as you were gone today."

In my sons class there is one who does the "I don't want to go tantrum." He stops when mom is going, and then after school when he sees her again, he starts it all over again. <-No Joke. She totally falls for it, despite the teacher telling her he was fine.

Evonne said...

That sounds like my daughter when we first put her in day care.

I'm glad he seems to be adjusting. I hope preschool goes well for him (and you!).

Carly said...

Preschool is
Hard..I had a Real Hard time with my 1st son. Not wanting to share,listening to the teacher,ect. I actually think Preschool and Kindergarden are harder for us than them. Hope he keeps up the Great Job!!

Letherton said...

Love the first picture. You must show him that when he is older :)

Sandy S. said...

Yay for Evan (and you too!). We're going to start preschool next school year and I'm a little worried...We're starting sports in another 2 weeks and I'm stressed about that! I know he'll have fun, but if he throws the fit like he does when he's mad I'm going to have to move!

I hope Evan keeps doing so well at preschool and makes lots of new friends!

Xmas Dolly said...

He'll be just fine Mom - we all go through the drama in one way or the other. Seems to me it only took the initial shock that, "we're not in Kansas anymore", and he was too happy too find so many new friends & fun things to do.

Maritza said...

My 8 month old son is already throwing tantrums like no other. My daughter has always been a real easy going kid, but my son...not so much. He's only 8 months old and I'm already dreading the day he goes to school.

Steph said...

You're not the only one! My stepdaughter, daughter (AND HUSBAND) are all like that! My Stepdaughter started preschool too, but she REALLY wanted to go, and was so excited she got ready super early! My daughter however, will throw an absolute fit over anything she doesn't want to do. Let's just hope she's as excited for preschool as her big sister!

dannyscotland said...

I hope it continues this way and that he learns to LOOOOOVE it!

MOMMY-MOMO said...

yay!! soo good to hear! Our boys sound so similar! We cant leave EC in the nursery at church either. Im hoping with this next one on the way we get her used to it earlier on...

Amy said...

Phew! I'll bet you're relieved and probably proud to know that Evan is adjusting well to school. Big "high five" to you!! :)

Kristie said...

I am glad he is adjusting well! L is having the opposite week. She started pre-school for the first time on Tuesday and didn't cry until today.

Lisa P@www.isitmondayalready.com said...

oh yay! Im so glad it went well for him! When I started my son at day care a few months back he was so shy and would cry for a while. Now the only time I see tears is like after a long weekend! I love that they come out of their shell pretty easily!

Shannon said...

Yay, that's such a great story! I am terrified of taking my 13 month old anywhere and leaving her, including my church nursery, but after reading your post, I'm thinking that maybe that's exactly where I should start! I know when the day comes, it's going to be harder on me than her. All my friends and other bloggy moms have their children of a similar age enrolled in "school" a few times a week, but I'm going to wait on all that for a while. I just hope I'm not making things more difficult in the long run! Your post did give me hope though. Glad things are now going well!

Ellen said...

Neither of my kids was ever like that. They'd walk up and talk to total strangers. Hi my name is Sarah what's yours?

Enjoy it while they're young. Soon enough they'll be 17 and you'll wish they were in preschool again.

Life Is A SandCastle said...

I've had the same church cries. My son is very strong will too. I checked around, but decided to wait until he is a little older. The contract to the school was $200 a month if he went or not and for the whole school year. Glad your school year is working out.

Teresha@Marlie and Me said...

His transition was smoother than a lot of other preschoolers. He'll be begging to go more days in no time! He looks so cool with his backpack!

Lady V dZine said...

I am so glad he is adjusting! I have another year to go, but the stories this week have me terrified already!

Chelle said...

I am so happy for you, Dee! And I am so proud of him--that's awesome!

alissa4illustration said...

Mica started preschool just after he turned 3. He has an Aug. birthday, and went with his cousin. He knew his letters and was potty trained. He wouldn't participate at all for awhile. He bounced around, could not hold still. We wanted to build his social skills.

Two years later. Since he has an Aug. birthday he's still in preschool. He's 5, and doing great. We have him in 2 preschools. One cheaper one that focuses on play and exercise, and the other one is the same one he was in that is teaching him how to read and do math. I kind of think he would of done fine in Kindergarten, but I listened to everyone that said, "He's a boy, he has an August birthday, hold him." It's so hard to know what to do as a parent!

My youngest Isaak is VERY shy to strangers. I kind of wonder what he'll do when he starts preschool. He hides behind daddy when they go to pick Mica up.

Nicole said...

Your first picture made me laugh because that is the stage my 2-year-old is in. If he doesn't want his picture taken he'll throw a fit--even if it's a candid shot and he catches me, he'll start screaming. LOL
I'm glad your son is adjusting to preschool. I'm sure he'll love it.

Vanessa said...

My Zoelle sounds just like your Evan! In fact I chuckled throughout your whole post (sorry)! :) Only because I can relate. We chose not to put her in preschool this year and instead do preschool at home. Not exactly sure how that will work out as we haven't started yet this year, but I am worried she will be too stubborn to do anything. Overall, though she does seem excited so we will see. Hope it continues to go well for you and Evan.

Anonymous said...

I just started working again about 3 weeks ago. My daughter is almost 2 1/2 and my son is now 6 months. My son had no problems. My daughter, on the other hand, was crying every time I was her at school for the first two weeks. My boss came over to tell me it would get better, and I broke down and started bawling. For those first two weeks, every time someone asked me how things were going I would start crying. It was so emotionally draining. Luckily things are much better now. Everyone said by three weeks things would be better, I didn't believe it, but it is! And the only accidents she has had lately was during nap time a few days. Which is pretty good for a 2 year old, I think. And I work at that day care. There's this one child who has been there about three weeks also. He's almost 2, and he still cries ALL DAY, except for when he falls asleep, which doesn't always happen for naps. But whenever I walk past the room he's crying, when I see them outside he's crying, picture day they couldn't get a picture because he wouldn't stop crying. And nothing they do helps.
Paula R

Alison said...

I'm glad it's working out for him! Hopefully it keeps getting easier.

Hunter is 3 and we should have signed him up last spring for Preschool now. But we were dumb and had a newbish baby around and WE DIDN'T KNOW! We may try for this winter or spring. I am scared though lol.

sarah buki said...

i have to do this next year and i hope mine will be as smooth as yours!

My Wee View said...

glad things went ok after all Dee. My daughter hasn't been to daycare either and we plan on taking her to preschool at some point - so I get how nervous you were about it. This post gives me hope that all will be ok!

Thanks for sharing.

Lynette
xo

BabeeLove said...

That's so wonderful! I'm glad Evan got adjusted pretty well :)

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jakiesmom said...

my son went to preschool for the 1st time this week..was a little shaky, but not bad....UNTIL...I went to pick him up...i smiled at him ...and he burst into tears not wanting to leave..not what i was expecting from a mamas boy...but the next day...he told me he didn't feel good.etc.etc...i'm gonna take it one day at a time for awhile

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