Parenting Questions Answered - Babies Getting Their Ears Pierced

My sister and I both had our ears pierced when we were very small babies and there was never a problem. We never messed with our earrings because they were always there and it wasn't something we had to get used to.

Do your girls have their ears pierced?
How old were they?
Where did you get them done?
Did two people do each ear at the same time?

**Updated to add that my pediatrician(or any other pediatricians around here) DOESN'T pierce ears. I also don't plan on taking her to Claire's, I just went by to check it out-I plan on getting it done at an established local jewelry store.**

I have been meaning to get Isabella's ears pierced for months, but it makes me nervous. I don't know why, but I'm so scared they're going to do them crooked or something. I finally broke down yesterday and decided to take her to a local jewelry store. They were closed.

I decided I'd take her to Claire's and check it out. I saw the girl with the MANAGER name tag on and asked her if they had someone that could pierce her ears. She told me they did. I asked her if two of them could do it at the same time to make it easier on Isabella(because EVERY mom advised that I should do that). She asked me how old Isabella was. I told her she is 11 months(I still can't believe my baby is almost 1). She said NO-that TWO of them couldn't do it until she was 1. Seriously? She's almost 1-what difference does a month really make? I still don't understand why two girls can't stand there and pierce each of her ears at the same time BECAUSE she isn't 1 yet!

See? If I didn't have her all in pink with a little bow-everyone would think I had two boys. Having her ears pierced would make it easier for her to LOOK like a girl. :) I also want to get them done before she's too old to mess with them too much.

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Heather said...

Hmmm, very strange. I have 2 girls. My 18 year old we had done when she was 4 months old at Claires. Two girls pierced her at once. My other girl is 3 1/2 and we had hers done around 5 months and also at Claires. I asked for 2 girls but only one was on duty. I find the 1 year old rule odd??? You might try calling another Claires. It was definately easier on my older girl to have it over and done with quickly. Good luck!

Qtpies7 said...

I want to pierce my girls' ears by 2 months so they don't touch them. But my husband makes me wait until at least 6 months, he'll fight me until 8 if he can get by with it, lol. Once they can reach up and grab them, or in other words, have hand-eye coordination, they will mess with them.
I also like to do it when they are young because you can nurse them and they are fine right away. We did one ear at a time and I nursed while they did it. One little cry and then back to the breast, no problem.
With my second daughter we waited awhile to do them, and she fought me every single day with twisting and cleaning them. I seriously had to sit on her to clean them. So I just took them out. We did it later when she was 2 and one of the boys cut off all her golden blonde curls and she had a boy hair cut. lol

Danielle said...

I have 3 girls and they all had their ears done by 6 months. We tried to get our youngest's done at the same time, but could never find a place that had 2 trained people working at the same time. What worked well though was making sure they had 2 piercing guns and that they were both loaded and ready to go so that it was a quick process. Our oldest was done with one gun and just as she calmed down from the first piercing, she got hit a second time. With the other girls, it was 2 quick hits and then they were done. Does that make sense?

I am not sure about others, but all 3 of my girls did very well with both the process and not messing with their earrings. They were done crying within 1 minute and easily comforted. I was also able to ensure that during those crucial first months, the ears were well taken care of, so there were no infections. Piercing a baby's ears is a very personal issue. I personally never had anyone say anything to me, but I know moms who have. For some, it is a very hot topic so be prepared in case you catch some of the firestorm that may follow.

The Happy Wife/Danielle
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Crystal said...

That is stupid! Gianna got hers done on the 4th of July 2 years ago...Which means she was 11 mths old. We got them done at Claire's BY TWO people. They even recommended it, not me.

I wanted gia's done for the same reason. With her lack of hair, even with a HUGE bow and a shirt that read CHICKS rule. Some lady told me what a cute boy she was and then said I tricked her because the outfit and bow was blue. HELLO I wouldn't put huge A** bows on my boys

The Royal Family said...

that pic is awesome! She looks older than 11months. Mine is nearly 10 and we are going to do hers soon.

My first daughter got hers at 10months and she cried for like 2 min is all, there was no anxiety (for her) before hand, there was no "mom how could you do this to me" look or attitude because she was too little to remember, she never fussed with them, and just has always had them...

I suggest getting them done sooner than later, but that's my two cents.

I can't wait to get my seconds one done, I don't want the anxiety it caused ME, but I remember thinking, that was easy and not so bad... I was worried for nothing.

soo goodluck, can't wait for an update.

p.s. we got ours done by the manager at the hair college... :) You can always check the marks before they actually pierce them to make sure you agree they are even and not crooked. :)

Jenna said...

My daughter has her ears pierced. We did it when she was 18 months old and two people did both ears at the same time. I had no idea that there was a rule about having to be 1 to do both at the same time?! We had it done at Claire's.

Anonymous said...

I thought about piercing my girls' ears, but I decided not to. I figure it is a body modification that will leave a scar. I will wait until they ask to get it done, as it is their body. My oldest was hairless until she was 2, so it sooo tempting to do, but I didn't. I know they will probably want them done and it will probably hurt more later, but I will feel better if it is their choice.

dannyscotland said...

I didn't get my ears pierced until I was older, in high school. It was horrible. It hurt so bad. I couldn't stand the thought of causing my daughter that kind of pain for what I see, in my opinion, as just cute's sake. Your daughter is beautiful. If you get her ears pierced, that is of course your call, and I'm not in *any* way passing judgment, just sharing my opinion regarding my own child; I'm choosing not to. I just couldn't live with myself for causing her pain like that without a reason I consider good enough, like to prevent her from getting an illness that could kill her. (shots--and those are bad enough!)

Smoochiefrog said...

Mr. Frog refused to allow our girls to get their ears pierced until they were old enough to ask to get them done. I fought with him over this, but now I'm glad he stood by his statement. After awhile, I began to see his point of view; it's their body, let them decide what to do with it. Why force them to do something I want, when they may not really want it done. Especially as it's a modification and not in any way a necessity.

K (4) got hers done this past Christmas, after asking and asking to do it. We had it done at Claire's, one ear at a time. I chose to do it that way b/c who can tell if both girls will pull the trigger at the same time. If one is just a second off, then the child will jump and the second one will be off the mark. K didn't want to go through with the second earring, but eventually gave in and got it done. She has never messed with them, and happily allowed us to clean them as necessary.

M (8) just got hers done last month. She finally asked for it, and we had it done at Icing (a Claire's subsidiary), one ear at a time. She teared up a little after the first ear, and was fine as soon as the second was done. She doesn't mess with hers either, also allowing us to clean them as needed.

I'm really glad they were the ones to choose when to get their ears done. They were both proud of themselves once it was done, and they love the look of their "diamonds". If I could go back again, I would do the exact same thing; allow them to choose when to get it done.

Jus and Kat said...

We got our daughter's ears peirced at 3 months, but we didn't go to Claire's or anywhere in the mall. I asked at the pediatrician's office what they recommend, and they told me Merle Norman (not sure if you have those near you). But 2 girls did it simultaneously, and they were awesome. There's something about the thought of a teenager doing it at Claire's that I just wanted to steer away from . . .

When I was younger, the doctors used to do it themselves at the hospital or at the pediatrician's office. And that could be more of a cultural thing too because I know alot of people frown upon it. But I'd rather her not have the "scar" of remembering the pain. This way, she was done crying by the time I picked her up, and there was nothing more to it.

I didn't remember getting my ears peirced and neither will she.

Kat @ Keeping the Faith

Jenn @ Beautiful Calling said...

Chloe was 4 months when I had hers pierced.

We had them done at People's. They did one ear at a time. She cried her little heart out, not because of the pain but because I held her head still.

As soon as I let her head go, she was fine. We've never had any issues with her ears at all. She's always had them there as far as she knows and she doesn't even notice them. After the 6 week mark (of leaving the earrings in), daddy bought her diamond earrings to match mommy!

Animal Echoes said...

My daughter is 6 and I have never had her ears pierced. I think that if and when she wants it done, I will take her get it done.

Oka said...

My daughter was three months. We had to wait until she had started her shots, it was state law in Indiana. We didn't have a lot of options in our town, so we went to the Piercing Pagoda. I did have trouble finding a person who wanted to pierce a 3 months old girls ears. Most of them never had children, and are scared of the screaming (until they gain experience).

She didn't even cry. Course shots didn't make her cry back then either.

Personally, I would want one person doing her piercing. It seems to me, it would be easier for one of two people to get it crooked if your daughter starts moving.

It is usually the restraining that bothers the kids more than the piercing.

I was happy to get them done at 3 months, she has never had a problem with them, and she does not play with them.

Lastly, my doctor recommended the longer you can leave a child in 14kt gold earrings, the less likely they would develop metal allergies to the cheaper metals.

S Club Mama said...

Be sure they use nickle-free earrings (most places do now but be sure) because the nickle can be very sensitive. I had my ears pierced when I was 10. They got infected and we let them close. I again got my ears pierced when I was 14 or 15. They did well until sometime during my pregnancy or after with Isaac (so until I was 23ish). Then they just started to hurt and so I took them out. I'm sure if I push real hard they're still pierced but whatever. lol

Jenni said...

I've heard of pediaticians who will do it; my friend's pediatrician did it for her because she said she'd rather do it in a sterile office than at a store where you can't be sure that it's sterile...why not ask the doctor?

Also, if you are going to go to the store, they don't ask for a birth certificate, just tell them she's a month older than she is. When I got mine done as a child, I went with my godmother and she told them I was her daughter so that they would do it...they don't check; they just have to hear you say it. (FYI, she did it as my birthday present with full authorization from my parents).

Mungee's Ma said...

I don't remember getting my ears pierced, but I was told they only did one at a time. And after the first one, I refused to get the second one done. My mom led me around the entire mall bribing me to go back and get the other one done. She was so scared I was going to ask for the very expensive Strawberry Shortcake house, but all I wanted was a purple cow purse. Eventually I got the second ear pierced. And my holes are uneven :(

I am not going to get Mungee's ears pierced. If she wants to get them pierced when she's older, I'll think about it then.

I don't think earrings are necessary for others to deduce that a baby is a girl. Yes, it can be annoying to have to correct people when they say, "He's so cute" or "How old is he?", but it don't think it takes too much effort to do so.

I hope you find a place that makes you comfortable. I agree with a previous commenter that I would feel nervous about having a teenager at the mall piercing my baby's ears.

Kristie said...

I have an almost 3 year old little girl and I have not had her ears pierced yet. I will as soon as she is old enough to ask for it and I think she can take of them. It will be so cute!

Sarah said...

I got my daughters ears pierced at 3 months old they said that the youngest they would do was at 6 weeks. I got hers done at the Pedi's office, and PLEASE,PLEASE! DO NOT GO TO CLAIRES OR WALMART OR ANY PLACE LIKE THAT! There are several reasons 1. they use a spring loaded gun, they cause trauma on the ear 2. and because they are spring loaded and they get stuck all the time after they pull the trigger and the earrings get stuck in the gun. (I cant even imagine having that situation happen to me!)

To be completly honest go to your pedi's office and have them do it or go to a good/clean Licenced piercing parlor(I know its kinda scary going in there with your kid but call around and ask if they do childrens ear piercing)they both use hand powered guns not spring loaded. good luck with her getting her ears done!! my daughter loves her earrings and I know your daughter will too! (sorry to sound all doom and gloom is just something I am really passionate about)

MommaD said...

I have four sons, so when my sister had a girl we were both overjoyed! I paid to have my nieces ears pierced at 9 months old. We had her pediatrician do it. He had the sterile preloaded cartridges. He did both ears. No problems, no infections. Topical numbing agent prior to piercing meant very little tears. We were all very happy with the outcome!

Ricarda said...

I got my daughter's ears pierced when she was almost 4 months old. We used Piercing Pagoda at the mall and they had two people that were going to pierce a ear at the same time. It was perfect and I don't regret getting her ears pierced at such a young age. I have seen some one year olds and even two years old get infection around the piercing site because they tugged at their ears way too much (probably because they're not used to their new piercings).

BeeCute said...

ok, Looks like you're getting lots of advice. My daughter got hers done at 2 and half months at Claire's. Like they told you, they do have age limits for certain things, but I got to thinking about their "Must be 3 months old to pierce ears rule" My daughter was only 2 weeks away from that, so of course I said "She's 3 months old". You could easily do the same, lol. Not that I'm recommending to tell a lie or anything...hehehe I just don't see what difference a few days makes. Anyway, if I has known what my daughter's face would look like as they were doing it, I probably would not have done it. They did one at a time, and after the first one, she screamed bloody murder and I felt horrible. She's now 3 years old, and I'm glad we got it over with early, but probably should have waited til she was a few months older. She does mess with them sometimes, until I bought the children's locking backs, and now no problems. I'm sure you will make the right decision for your daughter! Good Luck!

Not So Average Mama said...

I hope you will please read my post about this. I am a professional, licensed Body Piercer and Tattoo Artist. Please read this before taking your daughter to a place such as Claires...

JamericanSpice said...

I have a daughter but I wont pierce her ears. I feel it's something they should grow up and desire and make the choice to do and feel the excitement about it all.

Good luck hon!

alissa4illustration said...

I'd just be worried that she'd rip the earring out. Both of my kids never leave my jewelry alone. I've always had on jewelry since they were born, so you'd think they to would be used to it. I read an article in Parenting Magazine about how young kids to babies have under developed cartilage, and they can rip their earrings out easier. I do have to say it certainly looks adorable having a girl with pierced ears!

Rachel C said...

My friend recently got her 2 yo daughter's ears pierced, and she did great with it. I have 2 girls and the thought had seriously never even crossed my mind before my friend had it done. then she told me that her family had kept asking her about when she was going to get it done. So weird - no one has ever mentioned it to me and I had never thought to get it done for my girls. I asked them if they wanted their ears pierced and they both said no, so I'll wait till they ask :)

TXsunlover said...

My granddaughter's ears were pierced when she was 4 months old and my niece's were done when she was 9 months old. Both were done at Zales and both were done by 2 women piercing an ear at the same time. Both girls are 6 years old now and neither have ever had any problems.

Debbie said...

Guess I'm the odd one. I have two daughters. They got their ears pierced when they turned 13. It was something they looked forward to and they saw it as a step towards being "grown up". They also were responsible for taking care of them!

nicole / Twitter: BTHM1 said...

we had our daughters ears pierced 2 weeks before her 3rd bday at claires. I had checked with them when she was about 10 months old and they recommended that I wait til she was at least 2 due to growth and the possibility that the holes that were even a year before would no longer be even (level with each other)- it made sense to me as I've seen toddlers with ears that arent pierced level and it looks odd.

daughter did great and had fun picking out her earrings for the initial pierce and for when they could come out. I'm glad we waited! I had to have mine redone in HS because of an ongoing problem with one side, that were done when I was an infant...harder the older you get I think!

Nicholle said...

My mom pierced my ears when I was younger and I'm fine with that, although I choose to not wear earrings now. As a teenager I chose to add a few more holes and nearly passed out over the needles and pain. I would never inflict pain of any kind on my daughter, no matter how small, just for appearances. If she wants to get her ears pierced when she's older that's fine, I'll gladly let her.

Brodie said...

I have always waited till my girls were old enough to ask for them, my oldest was 4, the next was 6 before she wanted them done, and my 2 yearold will get hers done when she wants them. I didn't want to mess with them when they were babies, and it was easier when they were older. Even when they were older I asked for 2 people to do it that way it's done and over before they know it.

Sarah Elyce said...

What happened to letting a person decide, when they are able to, if they want a permanent hole in their body? I think it is ridiculous to submit a baby to a piercing of any sort. It is for the parent's (usually the mother) enjoyment and not the child. Also, the phrase "easier to look like a girl" made me want to puke. What does a girl HAVE to look like?

Brittany said...

Your daughter has short hair but she has an adorable girl face. She doesn't look like a boy, My daughter begged me to get her ears peirced when she was two. They pierced her ears one at a time and she didn't cry at all. It was because she wanted it really bad. She usually cries about everything so it was really funny. Unfortunately she developed an allergy to the posts. I have heard I should try 24k gold but I don't have the money to buy it just to try. The 14k didn't work. She is now 6 and one of the holes have closed up. I wonder if I would have waited if we wouldn't have this problem. I am sure it is not very common though. As far as the above comment. The hole is not permanent she can decide to take them out if she wants and we submit babies to circumcision and they don't remember a thing. Girls love earrings so who cares if it starts out as something you want. I am sure she will love it and if she doesn't no harm done just take them out. Also I can tell you most girls don't want to be mistaken for a boy I know at least three girls who had short hair growing up and had people tell them they were in the wrong bathroom when they were in the girls room. that hurt their feelings. Don't let her comment affect you.:)

Teresha@Marlie and Me said...

My Marlie is the same age as Isabella and we decided that we'd wait until she was old enough to make the decision for herself (and do the cleaning/twisting thing for herself too). I imagine she'd ask around age 9 and we'd go to a professional and then pick out a pair of earrings together

hannah said...

I don't have a girl, so I can't share my experience. And I absolutely don't want to be judge-y about the issue, but I was struck as I read your post by your expression of being nervous about it. Why not wait? It's not like it's a necessary step in your daughter's development.

I can certainly understand not wanting her to be mistaken for a girl though. But honestly, people still ask me if my 10 month old boy is a girl, and he's about as masculine as they get, and I always dress him in boyish clothes. He just doesn't have much hair. I bet you'll still get people wondering about her gender, even if her ears are pierced.

hannah said...

mistaken for a boy, I meant!

Sarah Elyce said...

@Brittany- I thought comments were suggested here and open to all sides of the issue, not just what you think is right.

I can also tell you that it IS a permanent hole. If I take my earrings out, the holes do not close.

I also don't think we should submit babies to circumcision since it is also an elective procedure. My stance is that any elective cosmetic surgery is ridiculous for children.

"Girls love earrings." First, not all girls. Second, girls think they love earrings. This happens because parents pierce their ears for them when they are infants and they aren't raised with the option to not get them. It's really just a repeating cycle.

As for being mistaken for a boy, if parents raised their children to not be so worried about gender roles then this wouldn't happen. They would simply shrug it off and not let it bother them because it wouldn't matter to them. At the end of the day, your perceived gender has nothing to do with who you are as a person. If parents spent more time focusing on children as people instead of worrying about what they look like, I dare to say the world would be a better place. Girls and boys would be more concerned with doing the right thing, standing up for themselves, speaking for themselves, presenting their ideas/thoughts/emotions, etc. instead of looking the way they are supposed to.

This is all just food for thought, which is what I thought the purpose of a blog was that poses such questions and scenarios. You know, get people together thay may have different ideas and they all get to say what they think about it. Obviously, you don't have to do what I say, I just put it out there as the minority opinion as something else for people to be exposed to.

Riki said...

We had my daughter's ears pierced at 2 months after her first round of shots. We had it done at the Piercing Pagoda in the mall. Sadly one wasn't quite right and a little lopsided so I took her back and the next day they had to take that one out and re-pierce it. OUCHIE for her, but she never once messed with them and she's now 4 and loves her earrings. :)
Oh and when she was about 10 months old she had on a Tennessee Titans Onesie with light blue shorts, a hair bow in her tiny little ponytail and had her earrings in and STILL someone told me what a cute little boy she was. REALLY???? Some people never learn.

BabeeLove said...

I had the same issue when my little girl was a baby. I ultimately decided to wait until she turns 7. That's how old I was when I got my ears pierced. And who knows, maybe she won't want them done.
Whatever decision you make will be the best one for Isabella.

amyswor said...

Our ped said it have become more popular to pierce newborns, infants and little girls ears
because is safer with the newer ear piercing instruments than the traditional methods of
using a needle, thread by the mother or grandmother. I asked her advice and she encouraged me to go ahead and pierce all the girls ears. I was surprised at her response and told her I would think about it.

Her reasoning was when mommy cared for them, there was never any problems during the healing time, but when little girls wanted them, they often failed to care for them properly. Our ped said to do one at a time since babies can squirm and if they move at the last second, they can off in one or both ears.

Our ped gave me some suggestions for moms having their dd's ears pierced. I put them away and thought it would be years before I needed to read it. Wrong.

Well, our dd began seeing her peers with pierced ears, I also kept seeing babies and cute little girls with darling earrings. After our oldest, age 4 got hers done, my 2 yr old
wanted to have "earwigs" like her sister. When I came home with Missy (our 2yr old), dh asked why I didn't have our 8 mo dd's ears pierced too!

Guess what, we all went the next day to Piercing Pagoda where our ped had her 2mo little girls ears pierced. We went ahead and had the YDD's ears pierced too! All three girls now have pierced ears and are adorable. There is no problem caring for them.

Don't know if you'd considered having your younger girls ears pierced now, but after I did, they all were so proud of their earrings and looked adorable in their pics with little pierced ears.

I'd say if you've thought about it, then your mommy intuition is telling now is better.

Write me an e-mail for our ped's tips.


Life Is A SandCastle said...

Pierced ears for children very small seems kinda wrong to me, it's because parents what it. Not the child. I believe around 7 or 8 a little girl should have the choice. I love jewerly, just not earrings, so I wished I had the opportunity to tell me mom no when she had mine done.

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